Pet Peeve: People Can’t Bite Their Tongue

It’s been awhile since the last time I wrote about my pet peeves. So I figured why not? Also with a little admission on my part of how I almost did what I loathe, to someone else. *Gasp* Yeah, I’m not afraid to keep it real. That’s why you guys like my blog, am I right?

Really, though, I absolutely cannot stand when people don’t know when they should bite their tongue. Or if they do know, just choose to ignore it. The famous saying is still true, “If you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything at all”. People who partake in this nonsense really need to use that energy for something else, such as working out or end world hunger.

That one time I wanted to troll a blogger

When I say troll, it was more bashing/negative venting that I wanted to unleash on this blogger. I felt what this blogger was doing was against my moral beliefs and so I was heated. It made me more angry that everyone else was saying sweet things and I was blown away (and not in a good way). I felt like I was the only one who was thinking what I’m thinking. With the exception of one commenter who was being nice, yet bringing up my exact sentiment in a nicer tone.

You’re probably wondering who I’m talking about, but that’s not the point. The point is, is that one time or another all of us feel passionate about something we believe in and want to share our perspective/opinion with that person. Even if it’s confrontational, judgmental, hurtful, whatever the case may be. We want to feel better about our pent up anger and release it like a rabid dog.

Then I took a step back. I put myself in the blogger’s shoes and thought this is hard for them to open up about their life. Not just that, how would I feel if I was her, reading my crazy comment? Is it gonna benefit her? Change her point of view? her life? Probably not. If anything it will let her know that I’m a hater and I’m probably one of the reasons she didn’t want to blog.

I know I hate when people get on their high horse and preach as if they’re perfect. How, if they were in my shoes they would do A, B and C differently. So why would I turn around and become a negative influence on someone and do the same? More importantly, a bad influence on someone who I don’t even know in real life!

The truth is, we don’t know 100% what is going on in someone’s life. We don’t have all the facts. Even if we did, it is not our job to be the blog police and hand out tickets like candy. Come on now.

Instead, as people who see the lack of love in this world, need to just learn to be silent and only speak kind words to others. Just love one another.

Now, I’m not saying to be fake and only say good things to appear likable; be yourself. But at the same time, don’t get it twisted and be careless with your words. You can still speak your mind, but just make sure you’re tactful. If that’s too hard, then scrap your words altogether because it’s going to do more harm than good.

What I’m trying to say is – Bite your tongue, save your breath.

The entire world doesn’t have to know what you think about everything under the sun (unless you’re Kanye). So let’s just accept that we each have our own lives to worry about and not point fingers at others because we’re getting riled up for no good reason.

Remember that slogan, “be kind rewind” from Blockbuster? No? Okay, then I’m really ancient. Next time you get gung-ho and want to go off on someone, take a breath, a step back, rewind and put yourself in that person’s shoes. Bite your tongue. Look at yourself in how you would make that person feel reading your words. Your words have impact! Make sure they’re impactful for the right reasons.

Be blessed loves! Have a Happy Monday!! Now tell me, what are your pet peeves?