November Has Been Hard But Here’s What I’m Doing About It

Didn’t mean to not post that often since the month started, but you guys, November has been really tough for me. I thought that my identity being compromised earlier this fall was the end of it, but things got worse. Someone got a hold of my checking account and was using it to pay for their credit card bills. Thankfully, my bank took care of it, but I had to get a new account and set up a new direct deposit. Let’s just say that this really threw me for a loop because I’ve never had this happen.

I also found out that my Spotify was indeed hacked. Somehow someone got access to my username and password by getting the information on a post from some forum. By then I had already changed my password, but last month it was happening again. I had to change my password once more and that’s the last I should hear of it. Why can’t people use their own accounts and stop trying to use other people’s money to pay for their bills? If you’d like to see if your email has been compromised you should check out this site here that will let you know. That’s how I found out my Spotify premium was hacked.

Last week was also hard because I was in a car accident. I’m okay, my car is okay, it’s in the shop now and I should get it back in a few days. Somehow things worked out and I remained calm throughout this ordeal. Not to mention, sore, the day after.

Pausing NaNoWriMo

This happened the day I wrote my last blog post and as a result did not write that night for NaNoWriMo. I was upset and really sad. I lost my motivation and drive. I still haven’t written and it’s been a few days now. I realized that I need to finish my outline because I have no idea where my story is going and that’s not good. See, some people can write like the wind and see where the story goes. That’s what they call a pantser. But I know myself and I know that I, at least, need to plan my story. Otherwise, I will be aimlessly writing and the story will get out of control.

You, as a reader, will get lost and probably fall asleep reading my book or lose interest. I hate it when that happens to me as a reader and I do not intend for that to happen with my book as well. Not on my watch.

I know this one writer had to take out 30,000 words from her story so that it will make sense and be cohesive. I don’t know about you, but I think that’s a lot of words and wasted hours writing. I don’t want to make that same mistake.

Last year was a hard season too

Thinking back on what was happening last year was a hard season too. My mom helped me buy a car and I drove it back from Dallas to Austin. It’s crazy to think I don’t have that car anymore. I literally only had it for 4 months until it was totaled.

I was also in a relationship with a guy and that month was the hardest for me because I found out he cheated. I’m so happy that I’m not in that relationship anymore and that this time a year later, I am alone and focusing on me and my dreams.

Life won’t ever be perfect and that’s not what I expect at all. It’s just realizing that no matter what is happening in my life, there is always a solution and people in my life who have been there for me when I needed a helping hand.

My takeaway

I can’t help but feel grateful that God has my back and I just need to keep it moving. So if you’re also going through a hard season, I’m right there with you. You got this.

I haven’t even told my mom (or anyone on social media) about what happened. I just don’t want her to worry, but if she reads this post then the cat’s out of the bag. The plan was telling her when I get the car back. Somehow though, I felt I needed to blog about it and let you guys know that it’s okay if life is hectic. I always want to be transparent here and not show the social media facade that everyone likes to display.

It’s okay to cry, to feel angry and upset when things aren’t going your way. But always look out for the silver lining because it’s there. Maybe this accident had to happen in order for me to see that I need to plan my story. Or maybe it needed to happen to show me that I could’ve been in a worse accident. Maybe my fraud experience needed to happen so that I will be on guard and be more careful. I thought I was invincible on that front and this experience showed me that I’m not and that I need to take precautions.

How has November treated you? What are you doing to keep it moving?