Love Yourself, Cut Ties

The silver lining through this crisis we’re going through is really taking stock of the things that matter. Our relationships with our family, friends, and with ourselves, is more important than material things. These relationships is what is keeping a lot of us sane right now. If you’re going insane, then it’s time to make some decisions.

On my last post, I talked about loving yourself. I also said that it’s a process, so it’s not going to be an overnight change. Lately, I noticed there was a person in my life that I had to cut ties with. Every week we would butt heads about something and I’d be in tears. When we had our latest fight, I just couldn’t do it anymore. I’m trying to protect my energy, to keep growing and that doesn’t include having someone in my life who is judgmental, critical of the things that make me happy so I just had to shut the door on that friendship.

This was the card of the day yesterday. I was in shock! Fall in love with yourself and with your divine counterpart.

During these times, we need to really protect ourselves emotionally and spiritually, not just physically. I have no energy to argue with anyone, or hold grudges, or try to resolve things with someone you know there won’t be any resolution. This is where boundaries come in; you cannot allow someone to stir up your emotions by them trying to get a reaction out of you. You are better than that. Remove yourself from the situation and sometimes that means blocking that person.

Regardless if that person had good intentions, the way they went about it was completely toxic and disruptive. No one owes you anything, no one owes you their time and energy. When someone is negative, they project their flaws onto you and make you feel like you are the problem. The reality is, they are the problem.

It took me a long time to realize this tactic, even when I was dating my twin. He did the same thing. Well, now I’m wiser and I know this same ol’ merry go round. I am getting off. You stay on that carousel going round and round buddy. I’m dizzy LOL. Boy bye!!

I feel better now. Taking this time away from that friend has given me peace. Now my focus is to find my soul tribe. Like minded individuals who get me, support me, encourage me, inspire me to be a better version of myself. People who bring joy to my life and not tears.

Be proud of who you are, and not ashamed of how someone else sees you.

I’m proud of myself that I have the gift of singing. I’m proud of myself for having compassion for people, even those who I haven’t talked to in a decade. I’m proud of myself for expressing my sexuality as I see fit and not caring what people think. This friend made me feel shitty about my singing. Made me feel bad for wondering how my ex (who’s a nurse) is doing through this pandemic, which by the way my feelings are valid. Even if I’m no longer with him, he was a big part of my life and a part of me will always care for him. He made me feel bad for taking pictures of myself showing cleavage. Who cares?! That’s my sexuality and I do it for me.

His negative chatter got in my head. I started feeling self conscious about my singing, feeling ridiculous for still caring for my ex, having negative thoughts when taking selfies. We are not perfect. So if someone is in your ear, chiming in their opinion of you and how you should act or feel, you gotta be strong and reject that negative energy. Make the choice to shut them out.

You are who you surround yourself with.

That famous quote is exactly right. Who we associate with will have an impact in our lives whether we are aware of it or not. Who we choose to be in a relationship with definitely affects our lives. Choose wisely. It can make or break you. I choose peace and harmony with myself and others. I’m done with the BS. Now that I love myself, I am NOT going to put myself through toxicity just for shits and giggles. That has come to a stop real quick.

The other day, I noticed Monroe’s little toy on my plant. I asked him how did it get there? He just looked up at me and he looked so cute, I had to take a pic. Being with him as my loyal companion makes all the difference. He makes me laugh and loves me unconditionally.

All that to say, take time for you. Take time for your loved ones, take time to examine how people around you are making you feel. If there’s a shred of negative feelings where they make you feel small, cut ties with them. It is not worth it. Your peace of mind is more important. These times are hard enough as it is, no one in the world has not been affected by this crisis. Be mindful of the energies around you, seek happiness where you can and overall your own harmony so that you are whole.

Be proud of yourself no matter what. You are amazing, you are unique, you are beautiful. I love y’all! Stay blessed!

PS. I recorded another YouTube video(Click here) for a Twin Flame Reading! I will forewarn you, it is LONG, but I’ll make the next one shorter.